Adventure is about creating new experiences. Adventure is about putting yourself in a situation where you are forced to be challenged, where you are forced to learn, and where you are forced to grow. And commiting to adventure requires the right mindset. An open mindset. A positive mindset. A growth mindset.
Adventure does not just mean reward and pleasure, cool views, or an epic photo. Sure, you can have a positive feeling and capture images from an adventure, but when you commit to “going on an adventure” or “trying a new adventure”, the main goal should be awareness. Taking in of the good, the bad, the easy, the hard, the ugly, the beautiful, all of it, and being able to separate the action from an expected result. Seeing what parts serve you and what parts you could do without.
And most of all, learning more about yourself with each new experience.
After all, that’s the real purpose of life, right?
Happiness is achieved through uncovering the incredible life lessons the world has to offer and adventure, if defined properly, will bring you that.
So how do you break free from the monotony, the chores, and the fear? How do you prioritze learning and let go of expectations and any attachment to failure?
Warning: This SHIT is not easy. If it were, we’d all live a life full of adventures and travel. The reality is that we are primal creatures and our conditioning, upbringing, and environment play a huge role in what our every day life looks and feels like.
But if you are like me, and I’m guessing you are since you are reading this, you WANT MORE OUT OF LIFE.
You want to feel, to experience, and to be something greater.
You want to know how much you are truly capable of and feel the sense of satisfaction that comes from allowing yourself to be vulnerable, exposed, and then succeed.
Seriously, it’s such a RAD FEELING.
To wonder what it would be like and then to experience it and know the joys and failures, the ups and downs, the highs and lows, is PRICELESS.
I love this crazy life I’ve created, but it’s not easy and there were no rule books for this stuff.
You really have to want and believe in something bigger. You have to value yourself and remind yourself every day that you are worth it. That just because it doesn’t make sense to others, it makes sense to you and that’s enough.
Alright, so let’s get mastering (and this first step is soooo important)…
1 | Where do you see yourself one year from now?
I gotta tell you, there was a time I didn’t even think about this stuff. I was like, a year from now? Ummm…I’ll be doing the same thing I am doing today. Dishes, laundry, grocery store, whiny kids, cuddling kids, working out, blah blah blah. I was happy, but certainly not STOKED.
Something changed…well, ME.
It wasn’t enough and so I demanded more.
I couldn’t wonder anymore. I couldn’t let that feeling of “what if” ruminate in my head any longer. I knew I was capable of more and that I truly deserved to fight for more.
It doesn’t matter where you are today. If you commit to wanting more and are ready to demand more out of yourself, then you are ready to start adventuring bigger.
Dig deep and define where you’d like to see yourself one year from now.
What are all the adventures you’d like to do between now and then?
What things will you commit to NOT PUTTING OFF ANY LONGER?
How will you make your dreams a reality?
I know, it’s hard. Especially because when we actually take the time to write a goal for ourselves, it makes failure so much more of a reality. If we keep it locked up in a dream, we can pretend the feeling doesn’t exist and therefore, we’re good. Denial is waaayyyy easier. I know.
2 | Acknowledge Your Fears
I HATE falling on LEAD when I’m rock climbing! It scares me sooooo much.
I’ve read a lot of mindset books and I can manifest the shit out of things, but this one, I just can’t let go of.
I’m scared of people seeing me fail, I don’t like the possibility of hitting a rock below me and scraping myself up, and I really don’t like the nervous feeling I get when I’m about to fall. When it comes down to it, I’m scared of not succeeding.
But ya know what? I still keep falling.
I’ll admit, it’s gradual. Ideally for me to overcome this hang up, I need to be taking falls multiple times a week, but I just don’t have that much time to dedicate to that nor is it that important enough to me and so…I know I will probably never be a 5.12 lead climber (or even a 5.11).
I’ve read the book Rock Warriors Way to help me get over this fear, and while it’s helped, I’m still a big scaredy cat on lead. However, I’m not giving up. It might just take me a lot longer.
I might never be a 5.12 climber, but really I’m only a 5.9 leader and so hopefully, in a few years I’ll be a 5.10a climber, and maybe a few years after that I’ll be a 5.10c leader. Who knows, maybe I’ll prove myself wrong and be a 5.12 climber at 60 years old like the badass camp host I met at Maple Canyon.
I’ll tell ya what, though, anything is possible with the right mindset and denial won’t get you anywhere.
Purpose and persistence will take you far.
So once you acknowledge that fear, the next thing to do is face it. And for me, rationalizing fear comes down to thinking in terms of what’s the worst thing that can happen and what’s’ the best thing that can happen.
This motto has helped me so much!!!
And it doesn’t even have to pertain just to adventure and sports. I’ve used this exercise repeatedly in the past two years while trying to start this business and write books and blogs.
- Write down what your biggest fear is
- Answer these two questions
- If you stared that fear in the eyes and went head to head with it every day, What is the WORST thing that could happen?
- AND What is the BEST thing that could happen?
Bonus Exercise: Go try indoor rock climbing. Even if you don’t don’t think of yourself as a “climber”, I highly recommend trying out indoor climbing if you are trying to break through any barriers in your life (which you are or you wouldn’t be here reading this, right?!). It’s such a safe environment to work through gradual exposure therapy and help you face those fears.
3 | Be More Passionate + Apply Your Talents Creatively
Okay, so my secret recipe for life, adventure, etc is so easy . . . center it around passion.
I know, genius. No one has ever told you that before, right?
Well, maybe you already knew my secret, but do you do it? Do you chase it? Do you obsess over it? Does it define your existence? Does it dictate your days and give you direction? Is it your compass?
When I first started blogging on our Nomads With a Purpose website I’d write about things like, “Tips for hiking with kids” and “What’s in your fridge?” They were useful, factual, and maybe even share worthy, but they weren’t my passion. They were what I thought I was supposed to write about. Even more, they were tangible. They were an important learning step for me.
This right here is what I love writing about this. Mindset, challenge, risk, failure, and learning. That’s my passion. But I had to start small. I had to find my voice. I had to sift through my thoughts.
And that is exactly what you will do with your passions. You will experiment. You will test. You will study.
You might love nature and the outdoors, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you are ready to surf, or climb, or backpack, or whatever adventure is in your one year plan.&n